One of the most difficult circumstances to face in life is the death of a friend, family member, pet, anyone or anything that holds a specail place in our heart. Is dying final, is it the end, is our existence here on Earth all there really is? Is there hope for a life after we perish from this world?
Because of our mortal existence we must all face the reality that the time of our cherished friends and family is finite, there will be an end at least from this earthly world. Having recently attended the funeral for the father of a very good friend of mine, it was never more apparent the heartache associated with losing someone so close to you.
What are we to do, knowing that we are going to lose the people we love? Hope that we go first? Keep from getting to close to anyone? Live like there is no tomorrow? I believe the answer is not as simple as answering “YES” to any of those questions.
The Sting of Dying
Whether we like it our not we are all going to perish. We have a finite amount of time here on Earth to live. During that time we are going to suffer the unbearable hurt that coincides with losing a loved one. Unlike some things that get easier the more we do them, grieving a loved one is not one of those.
With the passing of a loved one, the greatest hurt comes from the knowledge that we will no longer see them. We can’t interact with them, converse with them or spend time with them. Death is so harsh and so final.
Depending upon your beliefs, there can be some comfort in the passing of a loved one. If there was a particularly difficult and painful illness that preceeded the passing, we often exclaim “They are in a better place now, there will be no more pain”. If you don’t believe in anything beyond our world, the finality of death must be excruciatingly harsh.
What Death Means to You
What do you believe? Is death the final chapter in our entire existence or is it the beginning of the next chapter? Once we have taken our last breath here on Earth, what happens next? Does anyone really know for sure?
I think there are people from all different facets of beliefs. Some believe in nothing, our existence is simple, we are born, we live, we die and for approximately 70 years we experience what this life has to offer. At another branch of the sepctrum are the people who believe we are reincarnated, once this chapter is over, the page turns and suddenly we are someone or something else. I personally believe that in death we are blessed, our earthly existence may have ceased but our faith brings us to the eternal life we are meant to spend in the house of our Lord.
Your beliefs are just that your beliefs and it is not for me or anyone else to judge.
In Death There Can Be Peace
If we knew for certain exactly what was going to happen to us and how our life would unfold would it be as exciting? If we knew every detail would we strive to be the best we could be or would we coast along? Chances are if we knew the outcome in advance we would not seek to excel, continue to better ourselves and live for a higher purpose.
Faith by definition is “the complete trust or confidence in someone or something”. How can faith bring us peace in death? By having an undying faith in God, giving your life to him, living for him you are giving yourself hope and peace. There is a calmness and inner peace that comes with knowing no matter what everything is going to be alright. God will always love you and provide you with everything that you NEED, not always what we WANT but always what we need.
This same faith will comfort us when we are broken, it will lift us up when we are down and console us when we are grieving. The understanding that our loved one has left our earthly world for a place in the house of the Lord helps to mend our broken heart. Knowing that there is no more suffering, no more pain, no more illness for the sick and downtrodden provides some much needed comfort when we say our last goodbyes. It is in this faith that we find PEACE when life hurts the most. Death still hurts the ones that are left behind, there is no cure for that finality. There is however comfort in knowing that we will meet again some day. We will meet in the house of our Lord, a house that our loved ones before us have gone to help prepare.
A Few Verses to Share
Isaiah 43:2 – “When you go through deep waters, I will be with you.”
Romans 8:18 – The pain that you’ve been feeling, can’t compare to the joy that’s coming.”
Joshua 1:9 – “Be bold. Be brave. Be courageous.”
Isaiah 41:10 – “Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.”
Psalm 62:1-2 – “My soul finds rest in God alone, my salvation comes from Him, He alone is my rock and my salvation.”
The Ever After
Our time will come, we will all perish from this Earth, our humanly form will cease to exist. Where we go next is up to us. For me the choice is easy, I believe that I will be reunited with all of friends and family that have passed before me. I will share this joy in the house of the Lord and it is with this FAITH that I am able to be at peace here on Earth. Knowing that there is a place for me in eternity creates a calm that can not be stirred by even the finality of death.