Happiness, what is it, where does it come from, how can we find it? Why does it seem easier to focus on the negative, why does life seem so difficult some days? Why does everything have to be so hard? I used to find myself asking those questions, some days I still do. The difference between then and now… I found the secret to being HAPPY, I found that life can be whatever we make it, true happiness comes from within, it can’t be found in a store, on a phone, with another person. We seem to endlessly search for happiness in all the wrong places. Material objects, other people, activities all provide us with a temporary satisfaction yet leave us wanting more. We are constantly pursuing that next satisfaction, that next moment of happiness, when true happiness does not come from a thing, person or activity. True happiness, inner peace, living in the moment all comes from inside you. The secret to this inner peace, comes from a positive mindset, an unwavering spiritual faith and a belief that everything will work out exactly the way it is supposed to.
What makes you happy
We pursue the latest fashion trend, newest tech gadget, hottest new car, biggest house in hopes that it will fill that insatiable void inside of us. These things are temporary but society has programmed us to believe they will make us HAPPY. They do provide temporary satisfaction and a momentary sense of fulfillment. They make us HAPPY, or what we think is happy, for a short time. After the temporary happiness subsides, we look for more, we want more stuff, someone else to make us happy, bigger, better, MORE!! It is a vicious, never ending cycle. We want, we get, we are satisfied and the cycle repeats. We can all be happy, we can all be positive, we can all have inner peace and harmony, we just need to know where to look.
The Center of Life
We go through phases were things are going well and everything is running smoothly. Feeling pretty good about where we are and what is going on at the moment. The good times are just that good but what happens when you fall from the peak, where do you turn when things are bleak, times are dark and the whole world seems to be against you. Without a solid rock, solid foundation, it is difficult to see how anything good can happen, you are trapped, stuck!! Our Lord and Savior can and will turn any situation into something positive, he will lead you exactly where you need to go. With God as your center, the primary focus, foundation of your life, it will not matter what life throws at you, your faith will guide you through the darkness and deliver you into the light. There is no magic elixir, no secret recipe, no elaborate combination of steps needed to turn your life into something positive, productive and satisfying. Letting go of the material world’s vices, changing your attitude, re positioning your focus, believing in God and searching for the positive in every situation will set you on the path to happiness.
Negative vs. Positive
Negativity is highly contagious and destructive, it can create a blindfold that prevents you from seeing the good things in life. It will consume your energy, make you feel tired and erode your drive and ambition. Changing your mindset to only focus on the positive is a lifelong pursuit. I won’t lie to you, it is very challenging some days, other days it comes very easy. The choice that we have to make in focusing on the positive is a conscious one, unfortunately we live in a very negative world. We are constantly inundated with negative energy coming at us from all angles, our phones, TVs, internet, other people…on and on. In the course of a single day, the negative energy we experience is multi-fold compared to the positive energy we encounter. The contrast is the strength and potency of the positive energy. The powerful effect of a heartwarming story, an encounter with a person with a love for life, a simple smile or kind word from a stranger can change your entire day, spin you around 180 degrees, put you on top of the world in the blink of an eye.
Where do I Start
“A journey of a thousand miles, begins with one step.” – Lao Tzu
Start small, take manageable steps, it is a marathon not a sprint. It will not happen overnight or in the blink of an eye. For me personally, it started with positive reaffirmation, give thanks for the blessings in your life. When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself “What am I thankful for today?” Start with a single thing today, add another item each day, before you know it you have a whole list of things to be thankful for, blessings you used to take for granted are suddenly at the forefront of your thought. When something happens during the day, look for the good in the situation, walk away from the bad, disregard the negative. When you go to sleep at night, ask yourself what were the good things that happened today and focus on them. Close your eyes at night with a smile on your face and peace in your heart.
Happiness is a choice, we cannot control the things that happen to us each day. The only thing we can control is how we react, how we choose to see the world and the outlook we have, be it positive or negative. There are no good days or bad days, there are just days, we decide within ourselves if they are good or bad. Life is a choice, how will you choose to live your life today, what will you be thankful for, what are the blessings in your life? Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post. I only hope that I can help someone who is having a difficult time take that first step, because all starts within you. Have a great day, God Bless!!!